lili's weblog http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/ The IC RSS Gadget webmaster@informedconsent.co.uk 360 Sun, 09 Mar 2008 20:25:34 GMT Sun, 09 Mar 2008 20:25:34 GMT http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/176973/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/176973/ Sun, 09 Mar 2008 20:25:34 GMT Well, ive just uploaded a second series of photographs into the "haemtolagnia" section of my www.tybernetics.com website (and i even managed to persuade Tanos to help! :-) )... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/176894/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/176894/ Sun, 24 Feb 2008 20:46:16 GMT i've just spent a wonderful sunday afternoon taking photographs of popi in one of Tanos's cells. ... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/176768/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/176768/ Sun, 10 Feb 2008 06:50:29 GMT i don't believe that there are many things i fetishise, however one of my obsessions (which, if i'm perfectly honest, is actually a fetish) is knives.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/165025/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/165025/ Sun, 23 Dec 2007 19:32:11 GMT It's been a while since i've been excited about Rope Bondage, but thanks to Garth Knight, i'm reminded what i love about it so much.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/164880/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/164880/ Sun, 02 Dec 2007 12:07:05 GMT After what seems like an eternity popi and i have ventured out twice now in less than 4 weeks.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/152113/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/152113/ Sat, 14 Jul 2007 10:16:16 GMT There's been quite a lot of discussion recently about various poly topics, most of which seem to focus on the difficulties experienced by people first coming into a poly relationship (be that from the person already established in the relationship or the person coming in new to an already established relationship.)... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/142838/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/142838/ Mon, 07 May 2007 09:57:24 GMT Yep - moaning.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/138604/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/138604/ Sun, 08 Apr 2007 09:42:03 GMT i've been interested in photography for quite some time, and it's a hobby Tanos has supported me in developing. ... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/135996/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/135996/ Sat, 24 Mar 2007 21:39:03 GMT Today i sat through the last hour of a tattoo that i now wear with a great deal of pride. In less than 4 weeks i will have been in service to Tanos for 7 years, and the tattoo was done in honour of that. It may not have always been a smooth ride for him or me but i can honestly say it's been the best 7 years of my whole life.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/135521/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/135521/ Wed, 21 Mar 2007 20:25:20 GMT Jung hypothesized that humans have a .preconscious psychic disposition. that enables to react in a human manner and that these .potentials for creation. are actualized when they enter consciousness as images(4). However, there is an important distinction to be made between the pre-existent psychic disposition and these images since there are only a few basic archetypes or patterns which exist at the unconscious level, but there is an infinite variety of specific images which point back to them from the conscious mind. Furthermore, since these archetypal patterns are not under conscious control, modern man tends to fear them and deny their existence through repression(4). Hence, the central therapeutic concept of Jung's analytical psychology was the concept of the need for balance to gain psychic health and that to achieve psychic health, or .wholeness., one must aim to become a .whole. (individual) person(1). The process of doing so, however, is different for each individual person but Jung believed it especially involved coming to terms with the archetypes. He hypothesized that when an individual is troubled, he or she will dream archetypal (as opposed to merely personal) dreams whose aim is to right an imbalance in the psyche of that individual(1).... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/135211/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/135211/ Mon, 19 Mar 2007 19:37:16 GMT "We all make fictions. Not one of us is what we seem. ... The urge to rewrite ourselves as real-seeming fictions is present in us all. In the glamour of our wishes we hope that our real selves will not be visible." ... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/114411/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/114411/ Sat, 11 Nov 2006 21:39:33 GMT A curtsey can be defined as being a traditional gesture of greeting, in which the woman bends her knees whilst bowing her head. In essence, the female equivalent of male bowing in Western cultures. In sixteenth and seventeenth century France the curtsey was used as a basic movement of female reverence, and developed a number of variations during it's use which indicated the level of reverence shown to those of senior social rank (it's flamboyance only restricted by the amount of movement the current fashion in costume allowed.)... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/75177/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/75177/ Sat, 11 Mar 2006 07:53:11 GMT i've been sitting here staring at a blank screen for what seems like a lifetime, trying desperately to think of what words to write. It feels like such a long time since i've felt the need to write something serious, something meaningful and now it comes to doing it, i'm struggling.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/62170/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/62170/ Sun, 11 Dec 2005 16:08:14 GMT Having read the chronicles of Narnia as a child i was intent on going to see the film "Narnia: The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe" this weekend (well, that and the fact it has Tilda Swinton cast as the White Witch" ;-))... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/54304/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/54304/ Mon, 17 Oct 2005 07:09:53 GMT This weekend just seems to have flown by.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/52690/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/52690/ Sun, 02 Oct 2005 18:27:13 GMT Sometime i find humility hard, humiliation even harder. By humiliation i do not mean the verbal humiliation brought about through name calling (i have never been required to endure that.) Nor the embarrassing humiliation of a more physical nature (though i have, on occasions, been required to do that! ;-))... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/49309/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/49309/ Sat, 03 Sep 2005 23:32:44 GMT 2005 was a year for firsts.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/48939/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/48939/ Wed, 31 Aug 2005 23:42:01 GMT Recent discussions have raised a number of issues around female submissives, safety and early play in BDSM and where i do acknowledge that safety is an issue for any woman (after all i am one) it's not just a "first date" problem. In fact, if you were to look at the reality of violence against women, the fact is that most women who become victims of violence do so in domestic abuse situations and not because they agree to "play" too early.... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/48576/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/48576/ Mon, 29 Aug 2005 07:27:11 GMT As far as Sado-masochism goes I don't mind admitting that I've struggled at times with calling myself a masochist. But then there have also been times when I've struggled with my bisexuality, my submissiveness and indeed, my desire to Top. I think its true to say that about 95% of the pain I enjoy has to be delivered in a D/s context for it to transform into the hedonistic experience I know its capable of becoming. As a consequence I always feel somewhat reluctant about ranking myself a "true" masochist. ... http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/48365/ http://www.lili.tanos.org.uk/weblog/48365/ Sat, 27 Aug 2005 09:12:13 GMT Well, i spent a wonderful evening in the company of some fabulous, talented and all around wonderful women at the SMDykes Calendar launch and Flick Lit winners ceremony last night - and it was fantastic!...